Overlooked Threats to Marriage

Matt and Kelly Flanagan discuss threats to marriage that are often overlooked. Kelly suggests there is a difference between guilt and shame. He says guilt usually works as a motivator. People typically want to do better next time they are in the same situation. Whereas, shame is a more secretive feeling. People who are shamed don't feel good enough and tend to give up on trying altogether. Shame is so dangerous because people who feel it typically want their spouse to feel just as negative and down as they are feeling.  Matt and contributor Meg Ryan discuss feminism and marriage. Meg suggests that marriage doesn't contradict feminism. She also talks about marriage being an exciting time for people to grow closer and support each other. Marriage gives people the opportunity to believe in another person.